iParenting- Our Cell Phone Contract for kids!

Did you draw up a contract with your child before handing over that cell phone?A parent-child cell phone agreement is a great way to discuss expectations and individual accountability upfront before that device ever lands in their hands.

We have been withholding the privilege of cellphones for our kids until now. We could’ve gone forever without giving in to the reality of society, but it is important to our kids, so we wanted to honor them. There are many reasons we wanted our kids to wait for this responsibility and I’ve written about that here. Our triplet sons just began 8th grade and their younger sister is in 7th. They are responsible, caring and hard working individuals deserving of this rite of passage in today’s culture.

We did not want the phones to be a gift. Owning an expensive i-gadget such as this is a privilege and responsibility. It’s not a toy. We told the kids they could buy it with their own money if it was important enough to them. Also, who feels good about placing rules and regulations on a gift?

The Carney Crew Cellphone Contract

Purchasing your phone

1. I am responsible for buying my own phone.

2. I am not allowed to pick the top of the line, latest and greatest phone, as I’m fine with not having “the best.”

3. I will only have a LifeProof/Otter Box case on my phone.

4. If I break or lose my phone, it is my responsibility to get it fixed or replaced.

Expectations for owning your phone

1. I will continue to do my best in all aspects of my life– school, sports, activities, etc. If my phone distracts me from doing my schoolwork or meeting other obligations, I will hand it over so that I am better able to concentrate on what’s important.

2. My phone will be taken away if any character issues arise. If we get wind of any inappropriate texts, calls, pictures, etc. we will have to take your phone until we can sit down and talk it through.

3.I will not lie about what I’m doing on my phone.Dishonesty breaks down trust and we won’t be able to let you continue to carry around a device that is causing you to deceive people. This includes deleting text strings.

4. I will be respectful of the family data plan that we are all sharing. If I go above my allotted amount of time, I will be responsible for the cost of that as well as subject to losing my phone.

5. I will always communicate with members of the opposite sex with respect. Do not text, email or say anything through this device that you wouldn’t say in person.

6. If I receive something uncomfortable or dangerous from a friend, I am expected to bring it to my parents’ attention.

7. I will follow the rules that my school has in place for cell phones at all times.

8. Be present. Be in the now. I will be able to put my phone away and enjoy real-time conversations with my family and friends, as I have always done.

9. My phone must be placed in the agreed-upon area each evening at bedtime. Respect other families by not texting or calling well before this time!

10. Be a good friend and always remember to individualize your friendships. Do not assume that a friend feels value in what you may say in a group text. Be sure to have separate interactions as well. Don’t ever involve yourself in conversations that are hurtful to others.

11. I will not respond to or reply to any communication from unknown contacts.

12. My parents have the right to monitor all Apps and have me delete any that they deem inappropriate. Just because your friends are using something, doesn’t mean that it’s okay for our family. You will need to respect our decisions as we will have done our research.

13. Everything I do and say online is subject to judgment and makes up my reputation. Do not use this technology to lie or deceive another person.

14. Purposely leave your phone at home sometimes. Learn to live without it as it’s not an extension of you.

This is an exciting time and we are so proud of you for waiting patiently until Mom and Dad felt it was the right time for you to own your first iPhone! May your relationships with your friends and family strengthen through the ability to text and reach out to one another on this device! We love you dearly!